• Your Faith opens you to the grace of thisSacrament
  • Some basics about the Church's teaching on marriage.
  • Marriage is full of surprises - just wait for them.

That matrimonyis a true Sacrament has been the constant teaching of the Churchand is the doctrine of St.

Marriage Symbolizes theFaithfulness of God to us (Eph 5:28-32)

Lifelong marriage is still the ideal. What gets in the way of thi...

4-6); the former is opposed to the primary end of marriage, the latter impedes the secondary ends.
On TV we see people getting married in all sorts of places, jumping out of airplanes or getting married in Las Vegas with Elvis himself as the chief celebrant. But you have decided to get married here in this church because you understand your marriage as a sacrament. You understand your marriage as something not just between the two of you, but between the two of you and God. That is why we say that the sacrament of marriage is a covenant; it is covenant between the two of you and God. That calls to mind the words of St. John Chrysostom, that famous theologian from the early Church,

It is foundin the unity and perpetuity of the Sacrament.

The secondadvantage of marriage consists in fidelity and mutual love andassistance.
The Church holds the exchange of consent between the spouses to be the indispensable element that "makes the marriage."127 If consent is lacking there is no marriage.


Keep Christ at the center of your wedding day, and your marriage....

A Catholic marriage is more than a contract, it is a sacrament.
You are about to exchange wedding vows here at the sanctuary and receive the sacrament of marriage. That is a promise of grace from Jesus. But you also have to foster and nourish the grace that is given to you today. You cannot just leave it all to Jesus. I also took vows at the sanctuary, the vows of celibacy and obedience when I received the Sacrament of Holy Orders. Religious take a third vow which we diocesan priests do not; they also take a vow of poverty which means they have no personal possessions although all their needs are taken care of. I have to nourish and foster that grace first given to me in the Sacrament of Holy Orders or otherwise it would lie dormant and not have an effect in my life. I say to you Anne Marie and Jim to make Jesus part of every day. That is in effect what you are promising here today by getting married in the Catholic Church. There are times in the lives of all of us when we will need that grace from Jesus to help get us by. You have chosen beautiful readings for your wedding Mass today. But there are many passages in the Bible where we read of married couples and those readings are not listed as possible choices for wedding Masses because no one choose them; they show the humanity of the couple too much. I think of Tobit and his wife in the Old Testament. There was a goat in their kitchen and they had a row about the goat (Tob 2:12-14). Of course it is not the type of reading that you would choose for a wedding Mass. Young couples like to choose readings about love and rightly so. But couples married for many years whose love has blossomed through many a struggle might not have a problem with some of the other passages in the Bible. Of course Anne Marie and Jim we do not expect a goat to come into your kitchen but a dog might come into your kitchen! And on those occasions when a dog or something else comes into your kitchen you will need the grace of Jesus in your marriage. So foster and nourish the grace that will be given to you today in this sacrament just as I have to foster and nourish the grace given to me in the Sacrament of Holy Orders.

When you really make Jesus a part of every day you become beautiful because you see yourself and others in a different way. There are three ways of looking at yourself: the way you look at yourself, the way others look at you, and the way God looks at you. When you make Jesus part of every day then you look at yourself less and less as you or others do and more and more in the way God looks at you, and that will make you very happy. One of the ways we learn about how God looks at us is in the Theology of the Body developed by Pope John Paul II. Some couples study Pope John Paul’s Theology of the Body before getting married. When we know who we are in the eyes of God then life has a completely different meaning. You are probably aware of the high divorce rate in the US. But I bet you are probably not aware that only 2% of those who practice Natural Family Planning in the US divorce. That is worth pondering. Those couples who really make an effort to follow the teaching of Christ and the Church have a beauty that is priceless because it is the beauty of Jesus first given to them in the Sacrament of Marriage which they nourished and fostered.

But the difficulties of mixed marriages must not be underestimated.

Two most wonderful events will take place here today; God will come to us giving himself to us in the readings from Scripture and in the Sacrament of the Eucharist and secondly N. and N. will make a sacred vow to give themselves to each other for the rest of their lives. There are two self-givings in love, God’s giving of himself to us in love and N. and N. giving themselves to each other in love.

Three Views of Love and Marriage in the Bible

The third advantage of Christian marriage isthat it is an inseparable union, which makes the contracting ofmatrimony more serious, renders dissensions between the partiesless frequent, and, in case of dissension, makes reconciliationmore easy.


Stations of the Cross for Marriages and Families

Because of the sacredness of this Sacramentpeople should not receive it without previous instruction, sufficient deliberation, prayer, and counsel. 2.

The Apostles speak of marriage as a holystate instituted by God.

As matrimony is asacrament of the living, the contracting parties should be in thestate of grace; they should, if possible, make a general confession beforehand, go to Holy Communion, and be married witha nuptial mass.